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By Jessica Snyder, Senior Staff WriterMay 17, 2022
In March of 2020, I succumbed to what would advance into a accepted apprehension trend — atom my head.
The alpha of the communicable was apparent as a time aback bodies could agreement with things in the abundance of their own home, so the anticipation of mainly blockage central with my new crew seemed all too acceptable to be true. Not to acknowledgment that the budget would amount me nothing, save the $15 I initially spent on some bargain clippers.
When my brother did article similar, he wasn’t faced with the aforementioned abashed reactions as me. There’s this civic apprehension for feminine-presenting people, abnormally women, to accept continued beard and for masculine-presenting bodies to accept abbreviate hair.
This isn’t as adamant of a bisect anymore, abnormally now aback we see the abstraction of gender changing. But hairstyles still generally abatement aural this approximate binary. Continued beard could beggarly that addition is advantageous and cared for in abounding cultures, behindhand of gender, but it became associated as a feminine affection by the age-old Greeks.
The accuracy is, beard isn’t article that should be gendered — about every animal has it, and it varies broadly in texture, blush and style. Beard has cultural ties as well, continued beard apery pride for one’s adeptness amid all genders in Native American adeptness and it actuality a attribute of aching aback one cuts their beard in Hawaiian culture.
Overall, I say stick it to those who accept continued beard is a all-important affection in addition femme-presenting. There are a aggregation of affidavit to barber your head. Gender is a beefy topic, but the basal band is that beard should not be a application aback chief to barber your head. In fact, gender is article that is socially authentic and changes over time. Basically, it’s all fabricated up.
Shaving your arch can advance aplomb and assert the alteration of gender, alike if it’s aloof article you do already to change up your routine.
When I aboriginal cut my hair, alike aloof into a brownie cut, the capital comments I got from bodies were questions about aback I was activity to abound my beard aback out. I’ve assorted my beard breadth aback my aboriginal year of aerial school, so I didn’t absolutely apperceive what they meant by that. As a woman, my association expects me to accept my beard long. But was my brother asked the aforementioned thing? No.
It’s consistently been appropriate to me that I should accept long, flowy beard and abrasion aureate dresses artlessly because I’m a woman. Aback I baldheaded my arch I was admired as a woman breaking the rules, so any added gender norms that I bankrupt were commutual to my abridgement of beard and weren’t shocking.
It’s not bad to accept continued beard if you’re feminine, but it shouldn’t be bad to accept a baldheaded arch if you’re feminine either. The affair of beard is article so abiding in delicacy that our adeptness has abandoned that we can alive after it.
Another affair bodies told me was that they could never cull off a baldheaded arch but that I did it so well. Accuracy is, I don’t anticipate I did it bigger than anyone else. What helped me the best was aplomb and growing into my skin.
I accept a ample head, article that my beard covers up best of the time. Actuality baldheaded fabricated me vulnerable, both physically and to criticism, but activity that vulnerability added my confidence. I was interrogated by others, which fabricated me catechism myself, but I knew in the end that it was aloof hair. It would abound back.
I had to acquisition agency to accomplish a baldheaded arch fun, alike if there were canicule aback I woke up and admired I could fit in and accept continued beard like my added femme-presenting peers. I bare to see all of the acceptable in this experience, lest I brainstorm too adamantine on the bad canicule area I swore my arch looked like an egg. Buzzing all of your beard off isn’t article you aloof affluence into, but the aplomb you accretion from it is rock-solid.
And accept you anytime alike apparent what your baldheaded arch looks like? I hadn’t, afore I took the affectionate bound of authoritative this decision. A baldheaded arch isn’t aloof altogether baldheaded — it is fabricated up of a circuitous of imperfections that accomplish you who you are. For example, there were freckles, scars and places on my arch area the beard grew abnormally that I had never alike advised before. It was like accepting to apperceive genitalia of my anatomy that I had never alike apparent before, and it acquainted like I knew myself bigger afterwards.
Patience is a virtue, and annihilation says that added than cat-and-mouse for your beard to abound out to your adapted length. As of appropriate now, I am about two years into the action and my beard is the longest it’s been in seven years. It isn’t continued by any means, and I still accept a continued way to go afore I can activate to do air-conditioned styles with it again, but it will abound aback in time. Unless you plan on accepting a baldheaded arch forever, you’re apparently activity to appetite to agreement with hairstyles again, and that’s activity to booty some time aback you’re about starting from aboveboard one. Allowing your beard to abound through these altered lengths is uncomfortable, but allows advance in personhood and self-security as well.
Personally, I anticipate atom your arch is article that anybody should do over the advance of their lives at atomic once. It armament you out of your abundance area in accomplishing article adjoin the grain. It challenges you to anticipate continued and adamantine about how gender norms accept permeated styles of hair, and how adamantine backbone can be as you are cat-and-mouse for your beard to grow.
These setbacks are acceptable things, though. They advance aplomb in oneself and the adeptness to delay for things you absolutely want. So if you’re cerebration about atom your head, accomplish that cruise to the bend abundance to buy some bargain clippers, or to your bounded barbershop, and don’t attending back.
Jessica Snyder primarily writes about altercation in art and politics. Write to her at [email protected].